Do you see yourself as being a bit of a misfit? If so, there have likely been countless times when you felt isolated, alone, and disconnected. Perhaps you found yourself thinking life would be so much easier and simpler if you could just be like everyone else.
Not fitting in with everyone else may be a challenge at times, but there's another side to it. Misfits often possess unique and valuable traits.
Here are five great qualities to be found among the misfits of our world.
1. You're a Thinker.
Most misfits are independent thinkers; and think deeply. You're not willing to blindly accept everything you're told from family, friends, the media, or society at large. You analyze and assess things for yourself. You're not lazy-minded; you invest time and effort thinking things through to determine whether or not it makes sense.
2. You're Honest.
Once you've had a chance to think something through, you're honest about your findings. Does it hold up, or are there cracks and inconsistencies?
As a misfit, your honesty fuels your personal integrity and keeps you in touch with your conscience. This makes it near impossible for you to go along with something you don't genuinely agree with or feel good about. As a result, there will be times when you don't fit in with the rest of the crowd as they go along with things; but at least your conscience is clear.
3. You're Spiritual.
Why are honesty, personal integrity, and a clear conscience so important to you? It may be due to the fact you're deeply spiritual. That doesn't mean you're rigid and dogmatic; or even that you necessarily adhere to a particular religion.
But inwardly, you're attuned to something bigger and more powerful than yourself that guides your actions and decisions. You consider far more than just the short-term gratification to be gained when you make a decision. You're capable of distinguishing between what's easy vs. what's best. You experience your feelings, you're not ruled by them. As a result, your values often differ from the values of the people around you.
4. You're a Dot-Connector.
Why is it that something can be so obvious to you, yet no-one else around you can see it?
While most people are focused on the biggest, loudest, flashiest, most urgent event that is happening in front of them, you have the capacity to stand back and look at the big picture. This enables you to acquire a different perspective from everyone else, and makes it much easier to connect all the dots.
At the same time, you're able to see all the places where things aren't adding up. Meanwhile, what seems obvious to you often gets overlooked by others.
5. You're a Rock and a Refuge for Others.
Lastly, while misfits might not be part of the in-crowd, they're often a rock and a refuge for others in times of need.
When someone is experiencing intense emotional pain, they eventually reach a point where they can't ignore it or hide from it. Reaching a point of despair and desperation can be a frightening and overwhelming.
During such times, the qualities that make you a misfit are the very same qualities that make you someone others want to lean on and confide in. The depth of your thinking, your integrity, your spirituality, and your ability to see the big picture and connect the dots, all make you a faithful friend, a sound advisor, and trustworthy confidante.
You're not flippant or dismissive, and you're able to go beyond offering empty platitudes. You connect and empathize in a sincere and meaningful way. You cut through the fog with your incisiveness and help illuminate the way with your insight.
Conclusion: if you view yourself as a misfit and find yourself struggling or feeling discouraged, recognize your strengths and the amazing qualities you possess. Be confident that simply by being yourself, you have something unique and valuable to share with others.
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